It’s
been a long time since I’ve done an
Asexual Sighting (not since Varys came out on Game of Thrones last season.)
It would have been sooner, but Netflix only has the series on DVD, and
plenty of other stuff (like Buster Keaton, classic Who-, and zombie dramas) kept materializing at the top of my queue
and forcing Six Feet Under
hiatuses. I’ve finally finished the
series, though, and I’m ready to add a fifth member to my confirmed/possible
ace character collection. (Some spoilers
for Arthur’s plots in seasons 3 and 4.)
Arthur
joins the show in its third season as an apprentice at Fisher & Diaz and a
lodger in the Fisher home. He’s a quiet,
eccentric man with a passion for the funeral business and a strong desire to
learn, and though many of the characters find him odd and/or off-putting, the
Fisher matriarch Ruth is increasingly drawn to him. They forge a friendship that wavers along the
lines of romance, but their bond is threatened by Arthur’s reticence toward
physical intimacy.
He
definitely joins the “socially awkward ace” pile. Unlike Sheldon or Sherlock, I wouldn’t say he’s
specifically written as ASD, although he has some of the typical TV codes for
aspies: slightly stilted line delivery,
unusual hobbies/interests, and fastidious attention to detail. He also experiences the ace rite of passage wherein
others speculate about his sexuality and assume there’s no such thing as
aceness. David thinks Arthur is “A,” but
Keith sticks with gay, based on his belief that “asexual people are asexual
because they don’t wanna come out of the closet.”
I like
that his social wonkiness isn’t about disliking or not understanding
people. True, he needs coaching to deal
with grieving families, but mostly, the issue is that others find him
weird. Arthur himself seems to like
people a lot. He’s not very outgoing and
often keeps to himself, but when he does
interact, he’s warm and open in his way.
As he and Ruth get to know each other, he’s exceedingly, earnestly
polite, and it’s with genuine affection that he tells his nephews about his new
friend at the Fisher house. While he’s
happy to compose digital music or watch obscure sci-fi movies alone, he’s
quietly, gently delighted when Ruth wants to join him.
As for
his relationship with Ruth, I’d say he’s romantic and sex-repulsed. It could
be that he only has platonic interest – it’s all pretty unspoken – but my gut
says he’d like romance with little physical contact. He’s clearly upset when Ruth tries to kiss
him, but he likes nuzzling her, which reads as romantic to me. (Mixed feelings about the nuzzling; though it’s
sweet, it’s unconventional enough that it feels a bit like the show is othering
ace intimacy.) Unfortunately, while Arthur
knows what he is and isn’t comfortable doing, I’m not sure if he knows he’s ace. It’s hard for him to voice his distress to
Ruth, and I can’t tell if he doesn’t want to come out to her – understandable
in a new relationship – or if he doesn’t have any words for his orientation.
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