This
episode was such a thing that my brother, who has absolutely zero interest in The Big Bang Theory, had to text me when
he was saw a commercial for it. I had a
different write-up in the pipeline for today, but that’s going on hold so I can
talk about what I just watched (definite spoilers.)
The
reason my brother needed my take on a preview I hadn’t even seen? Sheldon Cooper, one of my precious few
possible fictional asexuals, was declared to be “going all the way” in the
upcoming episode. I pointed out that,
depending how the show handled it, Sheldon having sex wouldn’t necessarily
preclude aceness. Overall, I was wary
but withholding judgment.
In all
honesty, I can say that this episode is everything I could have hoped it’d
be. First of all, it’s clear throughout
that Sheldon wants to sleep with Amy because he knows it’s something she wants. They’ve recently gotten back together after a
breakup that was pretty hard on him, and he settles on spending the night as
his birthday gift to her. Their first
time around, the lack of a physical relationship was hard on Amy, and it was no
secret that she wanted more, but Sheldon wasn’t into the right position to give
her what she wanted. Now, though, he
feels ready. It’s not that he’s eager
for it himself – it’s that he’s in a place where he feels comfortable with Amy,
and this is something he wants to do for her as a means of showing her what she
means to him.
This
absolutely works for me. I particularly
like that they continually use the term “intimate,” because for Sheldon, that’s
what it’s about. It’s about closeness,
not orgasms, and that focus on them as a couple probably helps him feel grounded
throughout. I’m sure some romantics balk
at this storyline, thinking it suggests that sex is an inevitable, eventual “next
step” at some point in a relationship.
Certainly, a romance doesn’t need sex, and there are other ways to make
sure both partners are getting what they need in a sexual/asexual
relationship. However, the odds were
slim that The Big Bang Theory was
ever going to have Sheldon and Amy working out alternative arrangements for Amy
to get her physical satisfaction, and something had to be done. Amy was
clearly struggling with her needs in their original relationship, and if they’d
gone back to the same dynamic, things probably would’ve gone downhill again
fairly quickly.
I like
that Sheldon seems more sex-indifferent than sex-repulsed. I would’ve had a problem with it if he’d been
shown as doing it when he really didn’t want to. Beforehand, he worries that he’ll be “overwhelmed,”
and he (along with Amy) is awkward as they get the ball rolling, but it’s not a
distasteful prospect for him. And at the
end, once they’ve done the deed, it’s played perfectly – he pleasantly observes
that he “enjoyed it more than [he] thought [he] would” and makes plans to do it
again on Amy’s next birthday. This is
great for me. He’s not suddenly changed
and no longer seemingly-ace, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t have a good time. He’s open to more, but he doesn’t need more. There’s no one picture of an ace, and aces
can have all manner of different feelings and attitudes toward sex. It’s a spectrum, and Sheldon is finding his
place in it.
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